Mind Use Appropriate Integration Of Spirituality
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1. CB posted…..
I like the idea of being known as what Liberty University (n.d) refers to as a wounded healer. What I like about this title is I feel a calling to serve the wounded. I have not yet served as a counselor to the wounded and so I learned a lot about counseling those who are hurting. Below you will find a list of 5 concepts which I have compiled that I found particularly useful and will think about while counseling those who are hurting.
- Are you truly being empathetic to a person?
Liberty University (n.d) states that many people find themselves with a counselor because their suffering severe and they feel desperate. As a counselor, it is important to recognize the true pain of a person without casting judgment.
- Are you listening for areas of needless suffering?
According to Liberty University (n.d) identifying needless suffering in your client’s life and then encouraging them to eliminate the needless suffering will allow them to concentrate on the bigger problems and to feel hope.
- Are you being hospitable?
This is difficult for me as I am sometimes a bit cold. As a woman who has worked in a male-dominated job field for almost 20 years, I often hear men often comment about women being emotional, so I have purposely tried to rid myself of being too genuine in my feelings of empathy. I can also be socially awkward and worry too much about what people think. Liberty University (n.d) suggests allowing a stranger to become familiar through prayer.
- Are you being open and honest with clients about their expectations for you?
Liberty University (n.d) discusses ensuring your client understands you are a magic answer to their pain, we are there to help, but we need to ensure the client understands our limitations and that their healing is still something they must put work into.
- Are you being completely present?
Sometimes I get busy thinking about answers to what people are saying rather than fully listening. Liberty University (n.d) stated that this shouldn’t be a concern and that just being present and listening can be enough.
In the scenario, it is clear Jamie is suffering. When she lashes out it is important to respond with empathy. McKinn (2011) states that you should ask the client if they would like to pray. Jamie is very upset so I would probably say something like, “Jamie I am very sorry you feel this way and I would like to discuss it further, but first do you mind if we pray together? I think it is important we first talk to the Lord before we continue our conversation.” After praying together, I would remind Jamie of my role in helping her to deal with her suffering as her counselor and remind her of her role. I would also remind her of the community she has through Him and help her to understand she is far from alone. Throughout the conversation, I Would also help her to feel empowered through the Lord and help her to feel hope as suggested by Liberty University (n.d). Since I imagine this would take quite a bit of time, I would not try to talk to her about eliminating any of the needless sufferings in this session. I would address her want to move forward by setting goals for the next session which she could work on in preparation for our next session.
Liberty University. (n.d). Presentation: Spirituality, Suffering, and Counseling Dynamics
Video. Lynchburg, VA: Liberty University.
McMinn, M. R. (2011). Psychology, theology, and spirituality in Christian counseling (Rev. ed.). Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House.
2. M. L posted…..
Counselors are unable to remove all the suffering from their client’s lives, but they do have an obligation to remove needless suffering. The five concepts or questions I would ask myself would be:
1. What am I trying to accomplish
2. Do I understand their pain?
3. How can I help heal the client?
4. How will I begin the healing process?
5. Am I creating the right environment?
The first question I would ask myself is what kind of environment am I creating for Jamie? The environment should be warm and private so that Jamie feels she can share openly without judgement. Once Jamie starts to speak on her suffering, I would ask myself if I can understand her pain. I will try to empathize with Jamie so that I can get a better understanding of how she truly feels. Once I am able to empathize and understand how she feels I can then implement a plan to make her feel less alone and delete some of this needless suffering. I could begin this healing process by letting Jamie know that her suffering will not go away immediately. I would explain that her suffering takes time to overcome, therefore she understands what the counseling session can offer her and now she knows that this process will take time. I would also explain to Jamie that my job is composed of being a participant, observer, and engineer. I participate in the healing and communication, I observe the sessions and I engineer the changes that need to be made in the session or relationship (McMinn, 2014).
As I create a plan to take away Jamie’s needless suffering, I need to ask myself what I am trying to accomplish. I need to have a full understating of how she is suffering and the methods that would best fit her situation. Since Jamie is recently divorced and feels alone, I would recommend that she seek out friends or companionship within the church setting. I would recommend this because “a balanced sense of self, brokenness, and close relationships with God and others bring maturity and health (McMinn, 2014, p. 51). Since Jamie feels so down, it is important to try to uplift Jamie’s spirits by letting her know that it is not her fault she feels this way. Since the divorce, Jamie may have a lack of confidence in herself so it would not hurt to give Jamie a boost of confidence to help her get back out and meet new people. I chose these five concepts because they cover the session from beginning to end. These concepts allow Jamie to fully understand what the sessions can offer and these help me to understand all that I can do for her.
MacMinn, M. R. (2014). Psychology, theology, and spirituality in christian counseling. Tyndale House Publishers.